One of the most important aspects of recovery, in addition for forgoing drugs or alcohol, is becoming more confident. Confidence and Self-esteem are traits that can help you say no, knowing more about who you are at your very core. Learning to say no, may be hard work, but it is much easier when you have confidence in yourself.
Self Esteem and Addiction
Addiction may have started from feelings of shame, hopelessness or worthlessness. During recovery, you have begun to discover the thoughts and behaviors that led to your fall down the dark hole of addiction. Alcohol and drugs were the ways to mask these feelings in the past. Without them, self-esteem and confidence are necessary.
Building self confidence should be a major goal in your path to recovery. After learning about the meaning of self-confidence, how do you do this?
What is Self Confidence?
According to Merriam-Webster, the dictionary meaning of confidence is, “a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances.”
Adding the word self to confidence means that you are conscious of your own power or reliance, no matter what the circumstances. This plays an important role in your journey towards recovery and your interaction with other people.
Self esteem is another trait that is important in your recovery. According to the University of Texas, self esteem that is healthy, ..”is based on our ability to assess ourselves accurately and still be accepting of who we are. This means being able to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses (we all have them!) and at the same time recognize that we are worthy and worthwhile.”
How Do You Foster Confidence in Yourself?
One way is to write down an affirmation about yourself and say it out loud (to yourself) every day. It could be something as simple as, “I feel proud of myself” or “I am powerful and loved.” Over time, an affirmation takes root that smashes the negative thought, giving you a more optimistic and confident view of yourself.
Forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Blaming yourself does nothing positive in your recovery from addiction. Take responsibility for the past and move on, knowing that you will do better in the future. (Yes, confidently!)
Learn to accept compliments. Build your self-esteem by acknowledging that what they are saying might be true. Shove aside thoughts that say that they really did not mean it. Over time, you will see that their compliment is your truth.
Kindness does much to increase your confidence. Doing one kind thing every day can help you see yourself in a better light. The person does not even have to thank you. You can enjoy the feeling that come with doing something good. It could be as simple as holding the door open for someone, picking up something that a person near you has dropped, giving your seat up on a bus to someone who needs it, giving directions to someone who looks lost or another gesture that is welcome.
You might look for ways to volunteer or help another person in recovery. You will experience more confidence along with the great feelings that volunteering brings.
Make the Change
Change does not have to happen all at once. You can begin to make these changes little by little. To sum it up, here is a list of changes to implement:
- Write an affirmation
- Forgive yourself and move on
- Accept compliments
- Be kind
Your recovery will be made smoother, and your life will be brighter, going forward, if you become more self-confident. Self-esteem increases, as well. Together, your life moves on in a positive direction with each small step taken.
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